My exam has been in a relationship with the woman he cheated on me with for about two years. If they aren't married, it's possible he brought her and the child here with the intention to marry her. Every case is different. Always asking me when Ima be home cause he's tired . Well she sure did drop the tea , I end up asking him , and he never denied it , but he never said anything either. There are APPS that allow you to skip an in person consultation with a gyn, and receive a prescription for birth control for under 20$. **** her I took care of her 9 years and have a 7 year old with her and she became a cold blooded killer after hanging out with her hoe friends could care less its me and my son time to go find a dime piece. All Rights Reserved. I had just had a baby, so with the follow up appointments, we knew nothing was wrong with me, so he had to confess he crept around. The goal is always to de-triangle. so yeah I'll just do what I gotta do . And he is present on and off in her life. Once a man has territory with a vagina he will always come back to his property. My selfishness and taking her for granted pushed her away. I didn't want my daughter to grow up in a abusive/violent relationship with her dad and I, too think it is normal when she gets older. At one point, I thought things would get better between the three of us (my husband, his baby mama and I). The Mother and the child are coming from Honduras and so they have to stay with him in his house because they have no where to go. I think men will always have a special place for their BM like a respect factor for the mother of their kids. But I doubt he does because he is married. Plus I learnt from him and his family that his ex treated him like sh*t. Well, I have a unique situation. They think that nothing bad can happen to them and that they were in love with each other. But it was five years of hell. wow you really need to chill out because no body is a worthless. **** that. If you love your man, make sure he will stand up for you when it comes to her and keep praying for her because these are the typical baby mama who end up having 4 or 5 kids for 3 to even 5 guys. That's why, if I were single. Bounce out baby. I love him so much and fought for two years to make sure he was involved. I'm feeling lost here with all these responses. Image credits Photo by Andrik Langfield on Unsplash. My daughter father left about a year and a half ago. Not all men will have a "bond" or be attracted to their baby mama. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now, he has a child with his ex but he told me their relationship ended long time ago. Another less likely option is that it is a new term to him and he didn't quite . I don't have the effort to try again atleast for now . Xper 3 Age: 38. PERIOD!! Anyway i told him look I'm done here ur baby mama like really how u leave elegance and go back to the ratchet life? My patience is running thin., A lot of times when you're with someone it can be a hard jungle you might would say especially when it comes to babymommas because women will do what ever and will not stop til she gets what she want what the writer should do is right down all the time the girl calls and then keep It in her notes of what time and date she called as. Anyway he was hiding her they where going out to dinner together and the kids and I noticed the biggest diff when he was talking to her on a daily and he started doing way more then he ever did for them he ain't even do more for the other two he had with other ppl. 3. They move here first, leave the wife and kid behind, when they get their citizenship they have the wife move here. I hate it. I know for certain that my ex tells the whole damn planet that I'm insane and always looking for conflict, nah-ah, not quite the full story. Your IP: I don't make him pay child support or anything. The soundtrack album for the show is a combination of both original songs by the characters in the show, songs by popular R&B music artists such as Alicia Keys, India.Arie, and Solange & Destiny's Child (who perform the theme song), and classic soul music from artists such as Aretha Franklin and the O'Jays.. Track listing "The Proud Family Theme Song" - Solange & Destiny's Child If that was so you wouldn't be here asking for advise. Not sure what he has told her about me and it doesnt matter given that I have never met her and he's sending me messages about wanting to get back together behind her back as I'm sure she would not be ok with that. And if it's the other way around then I definitely wouldn't be worried about it bc if they still wanted your current bf/gf then they wouldn't have left them! I don't what his problem is. I went to the doctor to make sure I was straight. No, a man does not increase feelings because you have saddled him with an obligation he didnt plan on. I always act like I don't hear him. Spanish term. He tried to eat the bathtub But it wouldn't go down his throat. I changed the locks on our apartment and took him to child support for our then, 4 month old daughter. Some of our partners may process your data as a part of their legitimate business interest without asking for consent. I'm so sorry. It would not matter where I am at in life or who I am with, if she would give things another shot I would drop anything and everyone to do just that. No where to go? Ask Your Question Fast! But shit change and he grabbed my attention. Long story short, he put her back at arms length once the baby came, and she tried to kill herself a couple of times. He's a grown ass man. How many people have you slept with in your life?? Yeah! i have the same problem, i had this boy his name is lebo at first he told me that his not with the baby mama and out of the blue he told me the baby mama is back in his life.i stoped calling him and he called to ask me to give him R100.what can i do. It may also mean he likes you in a special way. freckles. OP, regardless of what might be going on, the bottom line is you deserve better treatment than this. Or, maybe you each want different things from the relationship. I didn't see you mentioning that. He won't until he's ready. Or, if you do or say things that make him distrustful of you, if he knows too much about you, how you move, stuff like that. I have always loved my children's father and I always will; but we're friends now and that's what counts. I knew about his living sitution , and I would say the end of 2014 the girl became pregnant and had a girl in June 2015. I'd rather chop off my member and toss it in the tall grass to never be seen again than to entertain the thought of getting back with her. He will untill he doesnt anymore. Don't take all that **** about he don't want to **** her off because he really should be worried about your feelings first then hers for his kids sake. If it was about the kids I can understand, but no it's either about how her hair dresser messed up her hair, or about some stupid stuff. Phone convos? Just talk to him and try to get to the root of the issue with some kind of idea of the pressures of his day to day life. Try this scenario on for size, My husbands son came over for his weekend with us, were all sitting down trying to pick a movie for a movie night & my husband suggests that BFG movie, said he hadn't seen it & it looked good, we had just realised We couldn't hire it yet because it was still in the cinemas when his 6 year old son says "I saw that movie with my mummy & daddy at the movies" his dad said no no no he's mistaken he's mistaken, but his son kept insisting, he finally confessed that they went to the movies together when I was at work, after some heated discussion he admitted that sometimes he goes to her house on his days off & spends sometimes, I later discovered that he had spent the day there while the kid was at school as well, I already knew that communicated almost daily on the phone by text or phone call, but visiting? You are a sucker and are setting a bad example for your little girl. I feel like I am [his second choice] but he tells me that he loves me and that I'm his one and only. Smh worst feeling in the world is to love somebody that you can NEVER have!! Reach out to the bm and get to know her for yourself. Now recently we were at the mall the kids him and I and someone who knows his wife saw us and told her. The only time I normally remember my exwife is when I walk by an atm. My Boyfriend, cheated on me with the Mother of his 2 kids, while I was pregnant with my frist but his 3rd, multiple times. If he called you mama while you were both alone together then it would be more likely that he was showing attraction to you and you should consider the body language that he was showing. My baby dad and I were still having sex after we broke up, and got a new gf. If neither the child or mother of the child know you something is up! Doesn't mean they are not over their ex. To try to sum up what could be a culmination of mixed emotions may be impossible but you have to build that bridge to get across. "You look nice today" is guyspeak for "I'm attracted to you." When he cracks a joke, you're the first . Because my now beautiful daughter was created in the same fashion. Unless there was not a relationship prior and the woman got pregnant by accident. He drank up all the water. Is It a Good Sign that Your Boyfriend Is Committed to You? Perhaps he wants to mostly keep his kids separate from his romantic life, or he is taking slower to blend his relationship with his home life. Don't ask to see his daughter and then tells ppl that I don't let him see his daughter..Maybe all that time, he was just scare to say what he wanted to say. I wanted to get an education first, be in love and be married to the man of my dreams and make beautiful babies all the babies we want. Why waste your time with someone that wouldn't be proud to be with you and let the world know it? No I'm not one of those crazy baby mamas because I don't get strung along lol. news flash woman want children out of love not by ****ing force. Phil lives in England, UK, and has around 20 years experience as a professional life, career and executive coach. Women have been known to use children against their Ex, so I wouldn't totally rule that out, but his story about buying her a place doesn't add up. I will never let my daughter go through that I went through ever . Good one dear u made use of ur sharp brain quickly. Or, maybe you expect more from the relationship than is healthy. He doesn't care about upsetting YOU, but God forbid SHE ever gets upset. Call him immature, call him a boy, call him selfish and needy or a narcissist. They sent her a pic and all of all of us at the mall he couldnt deny it I mean we werent doing anything we were shopping for the kids and all hell broke loose. Mami . They were never married. Based on what you have said, it appears that you may be an unknowing other woman. He has lied to me multiple times of his situation with the mother of his children. When she knows that all she has to do is send . Everytime he's with her and the kids hr has mr blocmed and i csnt grt a hold of him. We wanted to make sure that his kids were secure and settled before we took the big step. The reason that he called you mama could be that he wanted to see how you would react. I call my boyfriend baby, babe, handsome, sunshine, and my universe. He wants to stay in her life . . But if you're God then I guess not. Then one thing led to another, then here I am pregnant. She probabaly knows someone is there with him being you and she calls on purpose just to make you mad and get back at him. I feel you on all that. We all make mistakes. Maybe he likes all the attention hes getting from his girlfriendand from his ex. I said dont forget you blocked me of all access to you. I had my daughter very young and I might of had puppy love with her father but I do not think we ever had a deep emotional bond which made it easier for us both to move on. She is 7 months and he is just not telling me and his family. He says she's very confrontational and he doesn't want drama . If she asks you to stay around a little bit longer, then it is evident that your child's mother still loves you. At one point she loved him, and maybe she still does. This happened the last time we split as well ? He's complaining about you to her, and she can't respect you because she knows your secrets and fears. N the messed up part is I prlly won't ever try n get into another relationship cause my trust is soo messed up!! If he did call you mama because he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction in his body language and behavior which could include: There are more signs of attraction that a guy might show you that get talked about, in an ebook, here. Sometimes it's hard for men and because they were in love, some fall in love and have children some people were never in love or had a form of puppy love, but if a deep emotional bond was created this can harbor bitter feelings and sadness for the dumped party either guy or girl. We share our daughter on weekly rotations and my boyfriend and I are long distance . . Do they see you as a new dad or one of mommy 's new uncles? If he is seriously worried that she will take his child away, he needs to consult an attorney about his paternal rightsnot bow down to her and pretend you don't exist.